FAQs

How long are the sessions?

The first session is an hour and a half.  Further sessions usually one hour, but can be longer if you ask in advance.

How many sessions will I need?

Everyone is different.  It depends on you.  Many people begin with a package of three or five sessions. Monthly mentoring keeps you moving forward, celebrates your wins and doubles down on what is not going so well.

How soon can I start? 

As soon as you like.  I will do my best to fit you in as soon as possible.

What is the difference between coaching and therapy?

Coaching is forward looking, enabling you to move forward positively.  Therapy is different and can be more retrospective. Everyone has their own specific needs. I have had clients who found coaching more uplifting than therapy. But it all depends on you, and what works for you.

Do I have to do any homework between sessions?

You will want to. You will have an action plan at the end of every session, a manageable plan we have worked out specifically for you.

I have a lawyer; do I need a coach?

Coaches work alongside lawyers and focus on the emotional aspects of divorce, which are not part of a lawyer's brief. Coaches support you in a different way and are not costly.

Do I need a lawyer?

If you are divorcing a toxic ex - yes. Unless your divorce is unusually amicable and you are sure you are not going to be cheated, it is advisable to have a solicitor. Where there has been domestic abuse, it is important to have both a solicitor and a barrister who specialise in domestic abuse.

Will you tell me what to do? 

I will ask questions and make suggestions based on your answers.  To move forward positively it is essential that you are happy with the plans we make.  Think of me as enabling you to feel stronger and gain clarity in order to move on.

Do you give marriage guidance?

If there is any chance of saving your relationship, that is what we will prioritise.  

I don't want to be alone for ever; can you help me start dating again?  

Of course!  We will assess what is important for you and think about what you now know after your sad situation.  You will gain clarity on your values and needs and work out how to protect yourself from toxic people.

How much will it all cost?

Everyone’s financial and emotional situations vary.  We will talk about my fees and affordability during our introductory chat, as part of designing a plan for you going forward.